It has many names: couples counseling, relationship counseling, marriage counseling, premarital counseling, re-marital counseling, and others.
The fact is that couples come to counseling for many reasons.
- Frequent arguments
- Loss of emotional or sexual spark
- Feeling taken for granted
- Not feeling “heard” or respected
- Pre-marital counseling
- Maintaining civility in divorce
These and other common issues often respond well to couples counseling.
In addition to specific issues, most couples benefit from improved communication and conflict-management skills. Couples learn to shortcut arguments, to listen respectfully, to voice one’s real needs and to respect and appreciation. Skills like these break many dysfunctional patterns and change the dynamics that can save marriages and relationships.
It is also common that one person in a relationship wants counseling but believes “My partner would never agree to that.” Surely it is helpful to have both partners come to counseling for any relationship. But it only takes one to change the relationship or the marriage. Time and again a partner has been surprised to discover that far from being helpless, he or she actually had the power to change the whole relationship just by changing his or her own actions and reactions. It’s also common for a reluctant partner to refuse to come at first but later to decide that he or she doesn’t want to be “left out” of the counseling.
Couples counseling has the power to…
- End chronic arguments
- Recover intimacy
- Restore trust
- Rebuild respect and appreciation
- Get your needs met
Many people regard a healthy love relationship to be life’s most valuable asset. Few things are so important to long-term health and happiness. What else in our lives could be more deserving of the best we can give? Call it couples counseling, relationship counseling, marriage counseling, or anything else — sometimes counseling is the best thing we can give to our relationship or our marriage.